Thanks to its partnership with publisher Eye on Education, EducationWorld is pleased to present the following poem and tip from Annette Breaux's book 101 "Answers" for New Teachers and Their Mentors: Effective Teaching Tips for Daily Classroom Use, 2nd Ed.
Avoid "Acting When Angry"
No one should find it curious that
if you act when you are furious,
Anger is what you'll send out
and anger is what you'll get.
What you do out of anger is
exactly what you will eventually regret!
We’ve all been there. We can remember the feeling of boiling blood pulsing through our veins, building, racing through our bodies, and then—BANG—an explosion! We got angry, and we lost control. We said things that, to this day, we still regret. How we wish we could take it all back. Well, we can’t. And the bad news is that we’ve probably all been guilty of not learning a lesson from it. We get angry again, and we act or speak without thinking. Once again, we lament the fact that we allowed ourselves to give in to the anger. We are all human; we all have emotions; we all experience anger. But not everyone expresses anger in the same way. Our feelings don’t determine how others perceive us, but our actions surely do.
A teacher stood in front of her classroom and “warned” her students several times to stop talking. They would stop for a few minutes, and then the talking would resume. Since I was seated in the back of the room, I watched her getting angrier with each warning. Her face became redder, her breathing became labored, her body became tense, and finally, she exploded. She threw her book down and began screaming. She then went into a tirade that she later regretted. But she couldn’t take it back.
We often hear it suggested that when angry, we should count to 10 or do something to calm ourselves in order to avoid saying or doing something we’ll later regret. Anger is a very powerful emotion. And in the classroom, it can be a very dangerous emotion if we do not control it. Just as we try to teach students to recognize their anger for what it is and to avoid losing control, so must we, as their teachers and role models, model appropriate ways of dealing with difficult situations. It is never appropriate to lose control of your emotions in the classroom. When you’re so angry that you can’t think straight, you’re right—you can’t think straight. Wait until you can, and think about how you will handle the situation from a logical perspective.
Take a deep breath, think things through, and
never allow anger to be in control of you!
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