Today, fathers are expected to take on multiple roles, including being participants in classroom activities and school meetings and events. With Father's Day just around the corner, Education World offers ways to help fathers connect beyond the traditional back-to-school night and parent-teacher conferences. Included: Books for dads and kids to read together.
"Today's fathers are being challenged to alter their parenting roles to accommodate new norms for fathering. ... Fathers, like mothers, are expected to take on multiple roles: provider, nurturer, caregiver, teacher and instiller of family values."
-- Andrew V. Beale, Ed.D., professor of counselor education, at Virginia Commonwealth University, RichmondTHE CHANGING ROLE OF FATHERS -- THREE EXAMPLES
Source: Professional School Counseling (American School Counselor Association), October 1999
Homework? -- Help! According to a 1998 Census Bureau Report, the number of single fathers has grown 25 percent, from 1.7 million in 1995 to 2.1 million in 1998. Men now comprise one-sixth of the nation's 11.9 million single parents. Mike Gowan is one of those dads. He is learning to cope with his multiple parenting roles. He admits, though, that sometimes the homework assignments his children bring home defeat him.
"Sometimes I think the assignments are designed more to test the basic intelligence of the parents," Gowan told his readers.
A special reading time with dad. David Shaw's son Ryan was in trouble almost from the beginning of first grade. According to his teacher, his social skills were poor and he was in the lowest reading group.
Shaw, a California computer consultant, works a flexible schedule, and he is able to attend regular conferences with his son's teacher. They developed a reward system (McDonalds with dad) and Ryan's reading and behavior improved.
"Now he loves to read, and he can't wait to go to school," Shaw told Education World. "Every day we have a special time to read together." Ryan is reading grade level material and his teacher says he will be ready for second grade.
Doughnut and dads. Last month, Tincher Preparatory School celebrated its second annual Dad's Doughnut Day. Fathers and significant men in children's lives attended a coffee and doughnut breakfast in the school cafeteria. They the "dads" stayed and visited the classrooms of their children. This is a very popular event that has included 500 or more fathers and significant others.
"Photographs are taken of each father and his child," Bill Vogel, school principal, told Education World. "The teaching staff structures activities that include the fathers. Writing exercises, science experiments, hands-on math, and technology lessons were among those activities."
This is one of many activities at Tincher that promote a strong community and school-parent bond. Others events include Mom's Muffin Morning, Grandparents Day, and a Power Lunch.FATHERS' PARTICIPATION, A BOOST FOR KIDS
Mike Gowan and David Shaw are dads who seem to be on the right track. Fathers' Involvement in Their Children's Schools is an October 1997 report from the National Center for Education Statistics. According to the report, children whose fathers participate in classroom activities and school meetings and events receive higher grades, enjoy school more, and are more likely to participate in extracurricular activities than children whose fathers don't participate -- regardless of the level of maternal participation.
Research appears to confirm the adverse consequences boys face when they grow up in homes with absentee dads. A recent study of 6,000 males ages 14 to 22 found that boys whose fathers were absent from the household had double the odds of going to prison. That study, produced by Cynthia Harper of the University of Pennsylvania and Sara S. McLanahan of Princeton University, found that such factors as race, income, parents' education, and place of residence had little or no bearing. Other results of this study, according to a Reuters news report, "Boys With Absentee Dads Twice as Likely to be Jailed" (August, 21, 1998), included the following:
A national study of father-son relationships found significant ties between substance abuse and homes where father and son didn't get along.
According to a New York Times article about that study ("Teenage Substance Abuse and Paternal Ties," August 31, 1999) "teenagers who do not get along well with their fathers are more likely to smoke, drink, and use drugs than youngsters in average two-parent families."
Furthermore, the Times reported, "a child living in a two-parent family, whose relationship with the father is poor, is 68 percent more likely to smoke, drink, and use drugs than teens living in an average two-parent household."
The report also found that a child in a two-parent family where the child has a poor or fair relationship with the father is at more than 60 percent higher risk of substance abuse than a child growing up in a home headed by a single mother where the child has an excellent relationship with the mother.A PARENT-EDUCATION PROGRAM FOR DADS
"Many fathers, though willing, are unprepared for this new and expanded parenting role. For this reason, involving fathers in parent education programs should be a program priority," wrote Virginia Commonwealth's professor Beale in last October's issue of Professional School Counseling.
Beale suggested a series of planned parent-education activities to help fathers discover more-effective ways of dealing with their children. He reported that activities directed by school counselors have helped fathers become actively involved with their elementary age children. He shared some of those activities in Professional School Counseling. Two of those activities follow:
Activity 1: Father's night out
Fathers answer the 25 questions on a "How Well Do You Know Your Child" questionnaire. Then they participate in a group discussion led by a school counselor. A few of the questions are listed below.
- Who is your child's favorite teacher?
- What does your child like most about school?
- Name your child's favorite friend.
- What is your child's proudest accomplishment?
- What does your child think you do for a living?
- Where would your child most like to go on a vacation this year?"
Activity 2: Father-child interviews
Fathers interview their children to determine the correct answers to the questions.
"In a number of cases, the interview process led to meaningful discussions between fathers and children about the ways in which they are both changing and growing," said Beale.REPORT SHARES WAYS 'DADS MAKE A DIFFERENCE'
Other ways to involve dads in school are suggested in Dads Make a Difference on NAESP Principal Online, the Web site for the National Association of Elementary School Principals. In an effort to involve fathers, James Lewis, principal of Gene George Elementary School in Springdale, Arkansas, planned a building project where fathers helped add improvements to the school gym. According to the story, the informal setting often contributed to serious discussions about children. "I was cutting two-by-fours with a dad, and we got to talking about his daughter," Lewis said.
Stan Paine, principal of Centennial Elementary in Springfield, Oregon, instituted a food and games night for dads and their kids. After pizza and basketball are finished, Paine recommends books that fathers and kids can read together.
To accommodate parents, Principal Jan Riebhoff, principal of Belgrade Intermediate School in Belgrade, Montana, schedules parent-teacher conferences in the evening. To build a list of volunteers, a sign-up sheet for parents is included in the student handbook. "Parents who do volunteer get the VIP treatment, complete with the cheers of a student-led thank-you squad at each visit."
The article concludes with the following advice on principals' helping fathers: "Simply by recognizing the factors that surround parental involvement (or the lack thereof) and offering easy ways for parents to become involved, principals can make a real difference in student success."ADDITIONAL ONLINE RESOURCES ABOUT FATHERS
Center for Successful Fathering, Inc.
This site is designed to provide education and support for fathers. It offers online seminars on parenting issues and links to related sites.
National Center on Fathers and Families (NCOFF)
Bring Your Fathers to School
The article discusses the implications of parental involvement to a child's success in school. It offers ways to involve fathers at school.
Article by Wesley Sharpe, Ed.D
Copyright © 2010 Education World
Originally published 06/13/2000
Last updated 06/01/2010