Part of a national partnership program
to encourage parent and community involvement in schools, a parent resource center in a Connecticut
middle school helps parents understand their middle-school-age youngsters.
Included: Tips for starting a parent center in your school!
Parents of middle school children often ponder why a once-loving child seems to change, almost
overnight, as puberty approaches. A formerly sweet child now sulks. Respect turns to belligerence
and intelligent behavior gives way to irresponsible conduct. For many parents of middle school
children, the terrible twos would be a welcome change from the turbulent teens.
Timothy Neville, principal of Kennedy
Middle School in Enfield, Connecticut, said parents are often filled with anxiety and concern
when children become teenagers. Parents often tell Neville their child was fine until he or she
got to middle school. "I think middle school is a difficult age," Neville said. "Lots of things
happen when kids become teens."
Linda Gademan, the librarian at Kennedy Middle School, and Kathy Kowalenko, the library's media-specialist,
wanted to find a way to help parents better understand the middle school child. With a grant from
the Connecticut Education Association and the endorsement of the Enfield Board of Education, the
women led the effort to establish a parent resource center last spring.
The resource center, located in a corner of the school library, cost about $2,000 to set-up,
Gademan said. The grant paid for a new bookcase, about 60 books, and a few videotapes. Parents
can borrow books and tapes that focus on a variety of topics pertaining specifically to middle
school children. Free pamphlets offer parents tips on how to parent and enjoy living with the
middle school child.
SPEAKERS TOO!
The center is open during school hours and every other Thursday from 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Special
events are scheduled from time to time. For example, in January, Dr. Robert Robinson, a licensed
marriage and family therapist, presented a discussion on the parent's role in helping a child deal
with bullies.
Neville said middle school children tend to be physical and to pick on each other. This is troubling
to most parents, he said. Parents don't understand why a child is bullied or why he or she becomes
a bully. Dr. Robinson, the director of Family Care Counseling Associates, Inc., offered information
about the cultural influences on children, peer relationships, the warning signs of potential
problems, and how to keep children safe and bully-free.
Other speakers have included the school resource officer, who is also a member of the Enfield
Police Department. He discussed the rights and responsibilities of parents and their children.
The school psychologist also spoke at the center.
PART OF A HOME-SCHOOL-COMMUNITY PARTNERSHIP
The center is part of the Home School Community Partnership, a national initiative to get parents
and members of the community involved in schools. The www.nea.org National Education Association
(NEA) offers training and materials to help school systems develop partnerships
between family, school, and community members.
Kennedy's Parent Resource Center is just one aspect of the partnership that makes Enfield a
model for the program, said Teresa Rankin, an organizational specialist for the NEA. If you can
get the teachers, the parents, the political leaders, and the administration to come together,
there are always positive results that improve the child's education, Rankin said.
The Enfield Home School Community Partnership began in 1996. At the request of Gademan, the
Board of Education endorsed the development of the partnership. The Connecticut
Education Association, an affiliate of the national organization, provides monetary support
for the town's programs, and the National Education Association provided training.
The school board hired a long-time parent volunteer, Amy Witbro, to coordinate the partnership.
Maggie Mahland, a director with the CEA, said the addition of Witbro really made the difference
in the program's success. Witbro keeps the communication flowing between town businesses, the
school board, teachers, and parent groups, Mahland said.
The partnership sponsors many special programs, including the Kids Vote project, which resulted
in an increase in adult voter turnout in Enfield -- an increase that bucked a statewide trend.
Another project, a weeklong Families Matter project, focused on family activities that included
a road race, guest speakers, a family fitness night, and a ban on TV for the week. While these
were special, one-time events, the parent center has been an ongoing project.
IF WE BUILD A CENTER, WILL PARENTS COME?
Similar to the other partnership programs, the parent center required considerable effort and planning
before it became a reality. First, a parent survey was conducted to determine its need. Gademan
surveyed parents whose children participated in an after-school program at the middle school. Most
said their children bewildered them and that they would benefit from a parent resource center.
Gademan and Mahland pitched the idea for a parent center to Dr. John Gallacher, Enfield superintendent
of schools, and Ann Malone, then the chairwoman of the Enfield Board of Education. After receiving
their nod of approval, they presented the concept to the Enfield Board of Education.
With the school board's endorsement, Gademan and Mahland then attended the NEA training in Dallas.
The NEA and CEA continue to offer partnership training, and Gademan was a trainer earlier this
month; educators and community members from eight other Connecticut school districts attended
the workshop.
"Through the Home School Community Partnership training by the NEA, I learned about the barriers,
some unwitting barriers, to having parents in our schools,'' Gademan said. "We decided the middle
school is really a focus we wanted to have. You need parents more than ever at this age."
Neville agreed. "We know a key ingredient to a student's success is to focus on parent involvement,"
he said.
Gademan and Neville both said the resource center is one way to break down those barriers between
the school and the community.
MAKE PARENTS FEEL AT HOME
The center was created with coziness in mind. After painting the area in a soft shade of cream,
Gademan brought a large framed painting from her home to hang on the wall. She also brought in some
plants, cleaned up an old round coffee table, and surrounded it with five comfortable chairs from
the library.
Gademan and Neville both realize they need to market the resource center more aggressively.
Next month, they will post information from the resource center on the school Web site.
"We assumed if we built it, they would come,'' Gademan said. The turnout at many events and
during the center's evening hours has been less than expected -- even with the added enticement
of home-baked goodies and other refreshments.
"We have to let [parents] know what's there,'' Neville commented. The center needs to be open
more often during the evening to accommodate working parents, he added.
"I think the need is there and always has been there," Neville, an educator for the past 27
years, maintained. Throughout his career, parents continue to ask the same questions: "Is my kid
OK? Is this normal?"
THINKING ABOUT SETTING UP A PARENT CENTER?
Are you thinking about setting up a parent center in your school? Linda Gademan has some tips for
you! here to read those tips!
MORE INFORMATION FROM THE U.S. DEPARTMENT OF ED
The U.S. Department of Education began promoting partnership initiatives in 1994 with 34 organizations
supporting the concept. Today, more than 6,000 organizations have embraced the partnership concept,
said Menahem Herman, staff coordinator for the department's www.pfie.ed.gov Partnership for Family
Involvement in Education. The partnership offers templates and publications to help communities
develop local partnerships. There are 58 parent resource centers nationwide, Herman said. For more
information, call 800-USA-LEARN or go to the Parent
Information and Resource Centers Web page.
ADDITIONAL INFO ABOUT PARENT RESOURCE CENTERS
Single Parent Resource Center
Created by a single parent, this resource provides useful information and support to enrich
family life.
ParentsPlace.com Parents of all
types connect here. The site provides bulletin boards and chats where members can share insights
and lend a supportive ear. The Ages/Stages area of the site offers many resources, including
a message board devoted to communicating with teens.
Sandburg
Middle School Parent Resource Center The site provides a list of the resources available
to parents in this Anoka, Minnesota, school-based parent resource center.
MORE INFO ABOUT SCHOOL-FAMILY PARTNERSHIPS
Center on School, Family,
and Community Partnerships The mission of this center at Johns Hopkins University is to
conduct and disseminate research, development, and policy analyses that produce new and useful
knowledge and practices. Researchers hope to help families, educators, and members of communities
work together to improve schools, strengthen families, and enhance student learning and development.
Family Involvement in Children's
Education: Successful Local Approaches This "Idea Book" from the U.S. Department of Education
suggests ways that schools, families, and communities can work together to build strong partnerships.
It is organized around strategies for overcoming common barriers to family involvement in schools.
Family Involvement Partnerships
for Learning Read a list of learning strategies from the U.S. Department of Education that
parents can use to help their children do well in school.
The National Coalition for Parent Involvement
in Education The NCPIE is dedicated to advocating the involvement of parents and families
in their children's education. The group also works to foster relationships between home, school,
and community that can enhance the education of young people.
Part of a national partnership program
to encourage parent and community involvement in schools, a parent resource center in a Connecticut
middle school helps parents understand their middle-school-age youngsters.
Included: Tips for starting a parent center in your school! 
Parents of middle school children often ponder why a once-loving child seems to change, almost
overnight, as puberty approaches. A formerly sweet child now sulks. Respect turns to belligerence
and intelligent behavior gives way to irresponsible conduct. For many parents of middle school
children, the terrible twos would be a welcome change from the turbulent teens.